Today's Topic: What do you miss?
People, places, events, feelings, moments, animals, things, we miss a lot of things. Or, at least I do. Not all the time. Not even all that often to be honest, but occasionally I will catch a glimpse, I'll overhear a conversation or a song, or even smell something that takes me back to a memory worth missing.
There are the obvious things to miss - people, for instance. I miss those in my family who have passed - Mama Hon, Papa Pete, Uncle Jimmy - just to name a few. I can't imagine what my life would be like if they were still around today, or even if they would have been alive for a while longer. I miss them dearly.
On a more regular basis though, I miss my friends. I have learned that it is much harder to make friends once you are out of school. As kids and teens, we are pushed together into classrooms, onto sports teams, in clubs, and camping trips, and sleepover birthday parties. You make friends. You spend so much time together at school and in extra-curricular activities, it is just natural to build relationships. And it's easy, not always, but the basics are there. After graduation, you all move onto new jobs, college, travel, or other experiences.
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| High School: Joy, Tiffany, & Patricia |
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| High School: Annie & Tiffany |
In college, we are pushed together into dormitories, classrooms, extra-curriculars, club retreats, and in my case - a sorority, Kappa Kappa Gamma. You are all in similar situations - away from home for the first time, maybe you know a few people, but realistically you are in a new place with new experiences and it is like 'instant-friends'. You live together, eat together, study together, party together - and you build life-long friendships.
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| College Dorm "Sketchy Six": Kaitlin, Kelly, Sarah, Tiffany, Megan, & Laurel |
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| 2005 KKG Pinning |
And then you graduate and all move to new careers and new experiences. Keeping in touch isn't as easy as it used to be. Phone calls are few and far between - I keep up via Facebook and a few emails, gchats, and blog posts. Life moves on and when I used to hash out every detail of my day while sitting on the couch watching movies and doing homework - I now talk to these people rarely. When we do talk, it's like old times - pick up right where we left off like not a moment has passed.
But I miss it. I miss my friends.
Nyssa is great and all, but let's be real - Chad and are in our late twenties/early thirties with no kids and we aren't members of the more popular church around here. We have friends, but not friends like we had in college and high school. Aside from family (who couldn't get rid of us if they tried), those people are still our closest friends, even though we hardly ever see them (with a couple exceptions). I wish it were easier to make good friends as you get older - and maybe it is if you are pushed into the right circumstances like working together or having children the same age. It's kind of awkward trying to make new friends at this stage in my life. Is it just me?
I hope I don't sound like I am throwing myself a pity party, because I do have friends - and good friends at that who I talk to almost every day. I might be related to most of them, but that's alright! We're not hermits, we actually go out and do things, with other people even. Friends, you might say! However, it's like you go through withdrawals once you leave college because you have been surrounded by so many friends for so long and then all of a sudden - not.
So, that's what I miss - I miss my friends. I miss walking in the door of 821 East 15th in Eugene to have lunch with my Kappa sisters, I miss warm spring days on the sunporch, I miss drinking beer in the backyard at The American Dream, I miss walking to Autzen, being late for Panhellenic meetings, and spending hours deciding what to wear to some random function. I miss being a carefree college kid whose biggest concern is which black dress am I going to wear to the pinning tonight?
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| KKG Bid Day 2005 |
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| KKG Kore Family Tiffany & McKenzie sharing a beer at Taylors! |
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| 2007 PC2004 "Saddles & Spurs" Retreat |
How about we get that PC04 reunion on the books?