What qualifies me as a romance expert? Not much! Married for almost five years to my dear husband who is most definitely not romantically inclined, I can only be an expert in my own relationship. What works for some, may not work for others. However, romance does not happen in real life as it does in the movies – you have to make an effort.
Now that Valentine’s Day and the emphasis on love has passed, romance might take a backseat. What about the days, weeks, and months following? Do we only put effort into showing our partner how much we love them one day per year? I surely hope not – and if you are in need of inspiration, here are five tips to keep the romance alive in 2013!
· Schedule time together. Between work, family obligations, friends, and hobbies – sometimes it is hard to spend quality time together. Designate a ‘date night’ and take turns planning dates.
· Say "yes". Oftentimes, people have differing interests than their partners and when asked to join in their particular brand of fun, they say no. Instead, say yes and go, do, and have a positive attitude about it. You never know, you might love it and your partner will love you for trying!
· Show your appreciation for your partner - even the smallest things can be encouraging in your relationship.
· Be spontaneous. Surprise your partner with a small gift or note letting them know you are thinking of them. Slipping their favorite snack in their luggage before a trip, or a note of encouragement before a big presentation can get big results!
· Learn something new together – take lessons for cooking or dancing, or even tour your local community together. New activities and learning as a couple will bring you closer and may result in a new hobby.